There can be moments of low self-esteem, and we can agree at some point we have been in that moment, escaped it, or still dwelling in it.
Life happens, it’s never always smooth sailing. Rough tides in life may have you question your self-confidence and your need to feel a little self-pity. But you pull yourself together, move on, and feel better.
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What does low self-esteem look like?
Let’s go back to when you think soberly about yourself in a degrading way, are awkward, and doubt your abilities. Yeah, it’s coming, that’s low self-esteem creep in undetected.
You can blame it on life, brush off your self-esteem or lack of confidence as a character trait, or call it a mistake. Either way, it did happen and it can leave long-term damaging effects, if not checked.
The signs of low self-esteem
Here’s are signs of low self-esteem you need to be aware of;
Always seeking attention
Some of us with low self-esteem crave attention in any way we can. That can be through the affection of men, stealing someone’s ideas at work, crying at every office party, or wanting to outdo a colleague or a friend. To them, life should be all about them, that’s a negative trait too.
You seek attention to feel better, and less insecure about yourself.
A pessimistic attitude
Yes, some women with low self-esteem will crave attention while others will circle on the negativity of every situation.
Instead of looking at the bright side, they will always consider the worst possible outcome of every situation.
Always a follower
Low self-esteem comes with copying and mimicking anyone you feel is better than you. You’ll struggle to make personal choices- that’s a follower syndrome. You will dress or shop based on what someone you look up to is wearing or buying.
You’ve seen this all the time in movies. Someone might put up with a bunch of crappy people around her because she didn’t realize she deserved better.
Her self-esteem is dipping, so she put up with crumbs when she deserves a stack of freshly baked cookies. She feels she can’t beat it, so she rather join them and endure whatever leftover she gets fed to.
Ahhh… the sucker of all signs of low self-esteem in a woman, bullying. Always directing aggression and looking for who to take it out on.
It could be someone you are jealous of, or they see themselves in, or anyone they feel they can get away with putting down.
This is nothing new. You just want to put someone down to feel better. Of course, it is immature, childish, and not effective, but it still happens like it or not.
Always feeling guilty
Saying “I’m sorry” is common for someone with low self-esteem- that feeling of not being unwanted and unneeded. Not that you can’t tender apologies but not when you want to tender your right.
Who has it worse? Nobody!
Life happens, and tides change. But when it becomes a competition of who’s going through the worse, to gain sympathy, and attention through sorrow and pity, then your self-esteem is beneath ground level.
Seeking validation through compensation
When you start to spoil others or overcompensate just to feel on their good side, there’s a battle for self-esteem. And often you end up doing good things for people who don’t deserve it.
Yes, sometimes at a party or an event, you just feel like chilling in the corner, but if you’re consistently withdrawing from people, you may have low self-esteem.
One of the signs of low self-esteem is the feeling of not fitting in, and instead of trying, you just stay back on your own.
You always agree
Being a pushover can be a sign of low self-esteem in you. You agree to whatever anyone pushes down on you, without sharing your opinion or speaking up your mind. You feel your ideas don’t matter, and theirs is always better.
Someone with low self-esteem doesn’t want to make a big deal, it’s always fine like that. They don’t want to ruffle feathers or break from the status quo.
You don’t accept compliments
Being a lady comes with a daily dose of compliments that you often blush about it, accept,d thank for it.
But when you are dealing with your self-esteem, you simply don’t accept whatever compliment that anyone dishes to her, inside of her feels they are untrue and mocking gestures.
Your level of indecision is at a peak. This is because women with low self-esteem are unable to make decisions and they constantly change their minds, without any reasonable excuse.
You’re more concerned about the other person not liking their choice rather than making a choice.
Studies have shown that there is a correlation between materialism and low self-esteem.
If People turn to short-term pleasure, thinking that it’ll make them feel better they might have a low self-esteem issue. You find consolation in often buying new things, just to seemly increase your self-worth, or boost your self-ego.
When someone doesn’t like something, they speak their opinion. But when you stay far away from conflict and are afraid of whatever outcome. You’ll probably agree just to keep the peace. You’re likely scared of speaking your truth because you don’t want to or know how to handle the consequences.
You are always comfortable wherever you are. This is because of low self-esteem and a fear of failing. You don’t believe in yourself, so don’t want to push yourself forward.
Because of insecurity, a woman with low self-esteem isn’t going to push themselves forward. Instead, they focus on keeping tabs on other people. You are always watching from a corner and never stepping out to seek your success.
A preoccupation with luck
Whether luck exists or not, a person with low self-esteem will never believe that something happened to them because they worked hard for it or deserved it.
They always believe that it’s just luck. In reality, there was a lot of hard work that went into the achievement.
One of the signs of low self-esteem is criticizing yourself. Whether you scold yourself for making mistakes or call yourself names, this is a negative self that will impact your mood and mental health.
You can’t open up to their close friends or partner. Sound familiar? This is one of the signs of low self-esteem.
It’s usually down to some bad experience in the past but sometimes it can be for no reason whatsoever.
Low self-esteem is always a driving force behind this feeling and they’re constantly afraid of being abandoned if they open up completely, because of self-shame.
If you’re always testing people to know if and how they feel about you, your self-esteem is dipping.
It’s usually because, in the back of your mind, you’re wondering whether you’re loved.
These thoughts push in a specific direction and you’ll start to test her everybody to determine her value. It’s toxic in so many ways, both for your relationships and your self-esteem.
Just so you know your feelings are valid.
Remember, if you’re struggling with low self-esteem, your feelings are valid. We all have crappy days and there’s no day like ‘the perfect day’ or ‘100% confident day’, life tides can change.
But you deserve to believe in yourself. You deserve to try your hardest. You deserve to be treated better and have friends that truly care. [Read More-How to boost your self-confidence]
Feel free to share this post with anyone who might be struggling with self-esteem. Or better, a kind compliment and gesture to such a person will go a long way to healing and boosting their confidence.